I hope you and your family are safe and well and that you have time to relax over the Easter weekend – although I don’t know about you but it’s all feeling a bit Groundhog day!
My mission has always been to help you to be more successful without working harder and that’s even more important right now.
With that in mind I recorded 5 short (less than 10 minutes) live videos for my Effortless Leader Revolution Facebook group this week.
If you want to take a look then do join us in the Effortless Leader Revolution.
I will continue to serve you with valuable and practical resources over the coming weeks and months.
Happy Easter to you.
I don’t know about you but I’ve had my fair share of wobbles over the last couple of weeks.
At times I feel like hiding away (pretty easy to do right now!) and at times I feel like I can conquer the world.
I know that goes with the territory. None of us has been here before.
All the ups and the downs and the in-betweens.
Maybe you feel the same.
But the question that’s giving me hope and driving me forward is this one.
‘How do I want to be remembered once this is over?'
I want to keep showing up! With humanity and love.
We can all choose our path.
Take care and stay safe and well.
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As our inboxes are chocca full of stuff all about coronavirus right now I wanted to take a different approach.
In my Effortless Leader Revolution Facebook community I did three short videos this week with some practical guidance for leaders.
Please feel free to pass them on.
And there are many more resources in the Facebook Group if you want to join us.
Stay safe and well.
‘You need to believe in yourself, more’
Has anyone ever said that to you?
How did you respond? With ‘yes, I know’ or ‘Really? I didn’t know that.’
I’m guessing the former? (Tell me if I’m wrong!)
But knowing it and knowing what to do about it is perhaps not so obvious.
Your first step might be to clarify what the other person means specifically (see my post last week which will really help you get that clarity).
You may or may not agree with their views but of course their perception is their reality.
Your second step? Lots of possibilities but I like this question:
‘If I had more self belief, how would I show up in a different way?’
That’s a question for you to consider and to ask the person who gave you that feedback.
Then you can decide what, if anything, you want to do about it.
One of the things I notice when I’m supervising newish coaches as well as coaching leaders is how easy it is to assume we understand what is being said.
But what we are actually doing is making meaning based on our own ‘map of the world.’
I remember falling into this trap myself as a new coach way back when – particularly with those words ‘challenge’ and ‘support’. A client would say, for example, that he wanted me to challenge him and I’d say ‘yes, of course’ - but my understanding of the word ‘challenge’ might be very different from his. So we’re already at cross purposes.
I love the phrase that I learned when I did my Conversational Intelligence® training with the late Judith E. Glaser. She talked about ‘double-clicking’ on words or phrases to better understand the meaning.
I use that phrase a lot. If I ask my coaching client to ‘double- click’ on the...
As 29th February only comes around every four years it got me thinking about leaps of faith. (Yeh, I know - tenuous link!)
A Leap of Faith takes you toward something – hopefully something new, fresh, positive, exciting, …..choose your own words.
It’s the very opposite of staying where you are (now, staying where you are is great if you are happy and fulfilled in that place).
But when you’re stuck, unhappy, unfulfilled – staying where you are is horrible. And yet paradoxically it can feel ‘safe.’ It’s familiar.
And we all know an energy vampire who moans and whinges but does nothing whatsoever to change their situation. (Be kind – they’re staying safe!)
Leaping into the unknown can feel really scary. We don’t always want to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway.’
So my first rule of thumb is to start to make the unknown ‘known; the unfamiliar ‘familiar’.
Want a new job but don’t have the...
Is lack of leadership confidence holding you back?
If so you are not alone.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
I want you to know this.
Firstly - Confidence is made not born.
Secondly - we can ALL grow our confidence with integrity and without undergoing a personality transplant or becoming a clone or an arrogant, entitled idiot.
Thirdly - We’re making a BIG mistake when we say ‘I’ll do that (whatever ‘that’ is) when I’ve got more confidence’.
NO, NO, NO!!
The way we become MORE confident is by taking on those new challenges one small step at a time.
Taking action effects change.
If you want this to be the year you REALLY step up and find that confident you (and help those around you find THEIR confidence too) then keep watching and keep reading.
I’ve got a ton of things to share with you over the coming weeks.
And an online programme starting soon.
If you’re interested in knowing more, let me know. You’ll...
It’s so easy to unintentionally close people down when we’re in a hurry, think we know the answer, assume what the other person means and so on.
Here are a couple of examples:
Team member – ‘I think we need to do some work on helping people understand our values a bit more and what they look like in practice’.
Boss – ‘I disagree – it’s not a priority right now’.
Same boss gets frustrated that her team ‘don’t innovate as much as they should’ and ‘don’t seem to have the creative ideas she is expecting from them’.
I wonder why?!
‘Better’ response?’ I’d like to hear your thoughts on how we do that’/’that’s interesting, I thought everyone was really clear – so tell me more’.
That opens up a dialogue.
Here’s a second example:
Team member – ‘I can’t get my voice heard in the...
I’ve been talking with a newly promoted leader this week about his first off-site with his new team.
The temptation, with an extremely challenging project to deliver in 2020, was to use the time to draw up their actions, priorities and timescales.
The team don’t know each other that well. Much better to spend the time getting to know each other – who they are, what makes them tick, their leadership journey thus far, how they need to BE together to get the right things done..…..and to be clear on their big WHY.
Of course, this is not a ‘one off’ event.
But when we build that firm foundation the rest will follow.
Creating the culture you want starts with conversations and connection.
It’s as simple as that.