When I work with teams, I often observe a team meeting (sometimes facilitating but often observing and giving feedback afterwards – I’m like the fly on the wall!)
My role is to ‘make the unspoken spoken’ and help the team see the patterns of behaviour that are working or not working for them. They sometimes know, on some level or other, but don’t quite know how to change things. And sometimes they’re completely oblivious or just accepting of things because ‘it’s always been like that’.
We can all learn to tune our antennae and notice much more than we do now – which means we can start to change things.
Here’s an experiment to help you make a start.
It’s best done in a small meeting that you are not chairing. Ideally it would be a meeting that you attend regularly.
Your role in this meeting is to watch and observe AND as we coaches like to say a lot… ‘to be curious without judgement’.
The 80/20 rule applies here.
Listen for about 80% of the time and speak only for 20%. Here are ten things to pay attention to:
This is your first experiment in ‘reading the room’.
Try the exercise and see what you notice – and if you want to change something but you’re not sure how then just ask!
PS There are many more articles and practical resources like this in my Effortless Leader Facebook group. If you’re a leader who wants to be more successful on your own terms and without overwhelm, you might want to join us.