I’ve been reminded of a phrase this week for a variety of reasons and as a result of numerous conversations. There’s definitely been a theme emerging!
The phrase is this: ‘You teach others how to treat you’.
It’s a bit of a variation on the theme of ‘treat others as you would like to be treated yourself’:
Here’s what I mean:
Some time ago, I worked with a wonderful lady who was the team comedian. Which is all very well, but she wanted a promotion and nobody could imagine her in a more senior position – after all, she was the team joker and they couldn’t always take her seriously! She eventually had to leave the organisation and re-invent herself in a new role - (not losing her humour and sense of fun of course – just dialling it down a little!)
Years ago, when I first set up my business I was so desperate to be liked by my clients (never a good thing in a coach!) that I charged too little, did way too much and valued their time but not mine. Well, I taught them that that was okay!
So how do you want to be treated?
And what do you need to stop or start doing to make it happen?